Hi there! This is Rachel from Lupa & Pepi. I am thrilled and honored to write a guest post for Amanda while she is off tying the knot! Amanda and I have a few things in common — we are both graphic designers, we both have an insatiable sweet tooth (cookies!) and we are both getting married this year! While Amanda’s nuptials are just kicking off, mine are winding down. As I settle into life as a “Mrs.”, I have one final wedding related task left to complete — writing thank you notes!
notecard: Neon Wedding, custom design by Lupa & Pepi // pen: Sensa, my favorite pen (I’ve had it since college!) // postage: Vintage Seed Packet, forever stamps via USPS (photo by Lupa & Pepi)
There are few occasions in life that necessitate writing an abundance of thank you notes — high school graduation, college graduation, bridal shower, wedding and baby shower (don’t rush me, not ready for “baby” talk yet!!). After our Jack & Jill shower, my husband (still not used to typing that!) and I developed an approach to Thank You Note writing that worked for us so we’re implementing it again post-wedding.
We both write 2-3 thank you notes each day. This not only keeps what could become an overwhelming task at a manageable level but also prevents us from falling into the trap of writing redundant sentiments. It keeps the message in each thank you note unique, genuine and fresh! We share a file on Google Docs which enables us to see and edit one another’s notes and keep track of our progression. Once we have about 10-15 typed, I’ll print out the text and handwrite each note (my handwriting is a bit more legible than the Mr.’s!). We then sign, stuff & send!
SOME GENERAL WRITING RULES OF THUMB
Approximately 4-5 sentences yields a poignant yet succinct thank you note. It’s not too long to feel like a gushy, romantic novel yet not too short to feel impersonal. The tone should be sincere and heartfelt with warmth and gratitude. Since more and more weddings require travel by plane, train, automobile, boat, horse-drawn carriage, etc. be sure to thank your gift giver for traveling to attend your big day! If the gift giver was unable to attend, express how sorry you are that he/she could not be there. In your note, be sure to identify the gift, its personal meaning and why you appreciate it. Explaining how/where/when you plan to use the gift is a nice touch. If the gift is in the form of cash or check, it is unnecessary to note the dollar amount however it is appropriate to explain how you plan to spend the money.
SETTING THE STAGE TO WRITE
When sitting down to handwrite thank you notes, it goes so much smoother when you’re prepared! Here is a list of what I like to have within reach when I am about to write:
- printout of your thank you notes
- your favorite pen (the one that flows well and doesn’t bleed or smudge on the paper)
- notecards & envelopes
- extra notecards & envelopes (hey, mess-ups happen!)
- an extra pen (pens run out of ink at the darndest times!)
- pre-printed mailing labels (if not handwriting addresses)
- return address stamp (if applicable)
- a plate of fresh baked cookies and a glass of wine (not necessary, but great additions!)
With just a little work each day & a little teamwork with your spouse, writing thank you notes will be crossed off your “to do” list in no time—then you can focus on figuring out where to put all those gifts!
Felicitazioni, Amanda! Evviva gli sposi!